Come to find out moving is a really big deal. Exhausting even. With that being said, moving has been one of the best decisions we have ever made and I think we are all settled in! Moving back to Oregon has felt like we've moved back home. I've never had the desire to return to my hometown, but there is something about my home state that has drawn us back and welcomed us with open arms. Our new little town is picturesque and adorable. It is quiet and the pulse here is relaxed and refreshing. I work with some amazing people who have accepted me more warmly and kindly than I've ever experienced. Same goes for our new church community. I love our little church. It's beautiful. Our priest....hilarious, unpredictable, and addicting to listen to.
We're just missing one thing...progress on our adoption. Actually, there has been movement, but it has been backward (insert sad face here). Moving into a new state has resulted in adding some complications to our adoption. Following a couple of rough weeks we've decided to return to our optimistic state of mind and put faith in the journey we are meant to be on.
I have to admit I've stumbled a bit the last few weeks. My faith in our adoption agency had all but dwindled until I realized that isn't who I should be putting my faith in. I do need to trust them and trust that they are making good decisions for all involved. I hope they are.
So, what am I talking about? We were reassured that our move would be no problem with our agency. They cover Oregon. What they didn't tell us is that they don't really cover Oregon. They are agreeing to send our caseworker to redo our homestudy and complete our individual interviews. They are also agreeing to network for us. What they are not agreeing to is supporting us post placement. Once a baby is placed with you there are months of followup that happens. It is fairly normal for your adoption to not be finalized for up to a year. Our agency won't commit to doing this for us due to resource availability (we think this was purely a financial decision on their part). What this means is that our agency with have to ask another agency if they will be willing to enter into a sub-contracting type relationship with them. Another agency does not have to agree to this, and I'm sure for them to do so there will be some extra large fees attached. Disappointing.
This is really the first time that our journey to build our family has felt like a business transaction. It is unnatural. The good news to this is I am one hell of a businesswoman. I just never knew I would use those skills to build my family. My inner mama-bear-I'll-do-whatever-it-takes instinct has been tapped for sure.
I also have amazing support. My husband. My family. My friends. One of the wonderful women I mentioned above (we work together and go to the same church) is a mother of four adopted children. She has been my adoption (labor) coach the last couple of weeks (she's also a nurse and gives awesome flu shots...didn't even feel it...true story). What a God-send. She reminds me to breath. She reminds me to laugh. She reminds me it will all be worth it.
(insert deep breath here)
There it is - a quick update. I look forward to having more progress to share with everyone soon!
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